Romance: Is it necessary?
Note: No, I didn't blog yesterday! What's happening to me? Actually, if you read the fine print on the entry where I talked about not-on-Fridays, I also included holidays (unless the occasion especially moved me). So I'm a slacker. Happy Tuesday!
TIME tells us this week that romance is essential to human existence. "Why we need love to survive" is the sub-head.
I found a lot of what they had to say intriguing, but it felt like I was a Martian investigating the rituals of some completely alien species. Which isn't to say I don't have some history with the subject, just no recent interactions of the romantic variety. I have some great male companionship now and then, this is true, but no ongoing relationship.
So I'm writing today to ask, Am I weird that I don't feel anything lacking? TIME's piece seemed predicated on the idea that we *need* it, not that we choose it or emphasize it. Am I so distanced from the experience that I don't even miss it anymore? Or am I genuinely complete without it?
I have well-meaning friends who tell me that when the time is right, I'll find someone. I read articles that tell me how to be more attractive or how to loosen up. I watch movies that imply "guy gets girl" is the only valid happy ending. But what if I'm done, now? What if the time is right, now, and this is what I am? What if I'm as amazing as I am, and the real answer is to be me, alone?
Huh. I can face that possibility with courage, because interestingly enough, my life is great. This may just be it, and that wouldn't be bad news.
So I guess my point is, with it or without it, life can and should be great. If we're complete ideas of the one Mind, it's possible to break with human convention and have all that we need right now. "All you need is love," as John Lennon says, but that love is Love. And if you have that, you're done.
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