Q: Couple questions and Happy Thanksgiving!
Just thought I'd answer a couple quick questions before the long weekend.
Dennis R. asked if my Science and Health reading includes the Bible lesson or is in addition to it. It's in addition to it. I'm reading Science and Health straight through just for the purpose I've described in posts earlier this week. The Bible lesson is a different study for me.
Obidon asked about Monday's posting: "How do you determine your values?"
This is a big question! I have to admit first that it took me months to gain the courage for life coaching. I got into it gradually. For my writing business, I had worked with several life coaches on their Websites. They would describe their services—helping people get to their core values and live authentically—and it would petrify me. I'd move off of my standard questions designed to give me an understanding of their businesses to questions like, "What if a person is too scared to be coached? Does anyone find out horrible things about themselves? What if their dreams are just too big that they can never attain them?" The whole thing fascinated me, but frightened me.
Eventually, though, I helped one of my very good friends with her site, and her approach was gentle enough and I trusted her enough that we bartered editing for coaching. And she started with getting me to articulate my values.
For example, the simple one we all hope for, which is to only do things we love. I wanted to stop doing things that drain me and instead devote all my time to things that I love doing and that energize me. Over the years I'd absorbed an external value that doing things you don't love is somehow virtuous and you'll get your reward later. My coach helped me see that this isn't *my* value, but one imposed from outside. My own value is to do things I love exclusively.
Once I knew that, I began to pay attention to those things I do in my life that I don't love. I began to notice the things that drained my enthusiasm rather than inspired me. Just noticing was a big step. Then, it became time for a conscious decision of whether I'd keep doing them or not. Some things I still have to do, to keep cash flow going, but at least I'm aware of the need to replace that income as soon as possible. Other things I'm trying out to see if they're going to be helpful in the long run.
One thing I noticed *always* energizes me is talking with people about spirituality, specifically helping them on their spiritual journey. When I'm talking with someone and helping them think through a situation, time flies by for me and I leave the conversation more in love with the Divine than ever. So that's an activity I'll always keep.
Determining one's own values is a very individual thing. What makes you, yourself, happy? Not what makes your family happy, or your church, or your boss, but *you.*
It is the will of the Divine that you be happy. Give yourself permission to discover for yourself how to fulfill that divine directive. It will be different for each of us, but it will be amazing and fabulous across the board. What a world it would be if every person lived according to their own light rather than continuing to enact the values of others!
I'm grateful that you are you and I am me, and together our perfect expression teaches us about the infinite nature of the Divine. Happy Thanksgiving!
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