Q: How to handle rebukers (part 2)
Warning: This blog entry gets a little scrappy.
Interestingly, yesterday's question didn't release the firestorm of comments I thought it would. It almost seems like, at least for readers of my blog, the answer is obvious. You'd respond the same way you would whenever someone's rude to you—try to be gracious in return.
I happened to be on the phone with a friend of mine who reads my blog, and she said, "I just couldn't answer that question because it's such b.s." By this she meant there was no issue there for her at all—it was just obvious to her that what the person did was rude by any definition.
And I have to agree. That's my honest response as well. I don't care how experienced or professional a Christian Scientist you are, you do not have the license to rebuke others at will. It's simply a breach of good manners. I think if Mary Baker Eddy had ever caught her students rebuking each other indiscriminately, she'd have had a few immediate rebukes for them.
Many of us have had experiences like this. I remember once when I gave a testimony that for me was truly heartfelt in a church where I was new, a member came up to me afterward and said, "Your comments would have been more effective if you'd not said 'you know' so often while speaking." After a stunned moment, like yesterday's questioner, I just said, "Thank you for your input," and left it at that.
So now I'd just like to say to these self-appointed correcters: Cut it out. Love first. Get to know me before offering any input. If you're perceiving some error in me, overcome it in your own thinking and leave me out of it. If you haven't taken the time to find out where I am on my spiritual journey, you're probably not qualified to have an opinion.
I'll end with this from MBE:
Any exception to the old wholesome rule, "Mind your own business," is rare.
--Miscellaneous Writings p. 283
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